Earlier today, I read a few pages of notes from the copy editing class I took last year. My professor indicated that all words mask a hidden agenda. By saying you are “raising awareness” you are making your conscience feel better, when in fact you are not being proactive. The same way as when you tell the truth, you sometimes don’t fully disclose it. While you might confess that you said your ex’s was a shitty boyfriend/ girlfriend, you may leave the part out that you also said that your ex was bad in bed.
A few nights ago, my friend and I were discussing the ins and outs of phone sex and why it is so difficult for people to take it seriously. After delving, fantasizing and trying to get to the root of the problem, she proceeded to tell me that her FWB was explaining to her that men, at times, fake it. The same way women fake it if they are not satisfied. (Wait, what?!)
I was told that if they are having sex with a girl they do not find that desirable, sex lasts longer than say, 15-20 minutes. (Sex also lasts longer when he’s drunk, but let’s not get into that). Of course, my friend asks this guy if he has ever faked it with her, which he says, “never. If anything, they get so carried away with excitement they can’t “hold it”.”
This had me thinking. Sometimes things don’t stimulate enough and you are faced with a choice: take matters into your own hands (sometimes literally!) or mask the truth. And as women possess this innate quality to share all of their thoughts and feelings, and sometimes pride themselves on being open and honest with their partner, they too are dishonest when they don’t say, “listen, this isn’t working.” But to hear that men lie in their own way, and that any sex isn’t good sex, just goes to show you that everything isn’t always as it seems.
We can take this logic to another scenario. You hate eating a certain vegetable (in my case, several), but you eat it anyway because: a). it’s good for you, b). you are satisfying someone with your white lie. Perhaps you go overboard and gush that brussel sprouts are your first love, but you catch my drift.
Something that can be so genuine and “a beautiful thing” is now anything but. How can you tolerate that, knowing that there is doubt hanging above you day in and day out? I can tell you now, no one has ever thought twice about faking it till they make it.
Everywhere, people are faking it. Or faking something. I guarantee you will never look at a politician, an athlete, or your boyfriend/ girlfriend the same way ever again.
Embrace the cynicism, folks, and start airing out that laundry!
~A
